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Message from Denise Cluiss

It's been long since I've written to you! Missed you at Christmas. Thought about how you would have enjoyed popping some fireworks for New Year. But, heck, a lot of people have been sick w/ the flue or bronchitis. And it SNOWED! I know you know all this. And I'm glad you're free of worldly "crap". But it would still be nice to have you around. Beth, Rob and Amy came over for Rees' 16th (WOW!) birthday. Such great people. They're taking him on a train ride Canada for spring break. Oh, man, it sounds like it's gonna be awesome. Bet it's beautiful up there!!!!! Well, Jim, gotta get to work. Give me a sign sometime. We all still think of you an awful lot.

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on January 5, 2018 9:45 AM

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on November 20, 2017 4:21 PM

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Jim, Terry Sliva's son, Jacob, died this morning. If you get a chance to meet him, he's a great hunter and fisherman. Take him along for a trip.

Message from Denise Cluiss

Here at work listening to Bonnie Tyler singing "It's a Heartache". And it's been a long time since I've written but I THINK about you everyday. So, I know you don't get these little messages in Heaven (or "home" as I call it). But it's needed, for me. There, I wrote it. These messages are for me! Well, I'm a fool. And, worse, I'm getting older, and becoming and OLD FOOL. You can excuse the stupidity of youth - blame it on youth - but - older. And things, our feelings and emotions, still hurt just as much in our older age, as when we were in our youth. Yep, sing it Bonnie Tyler ".....it's a fools game.......standing in the cold rain, feeling like a clown." But you're ok now. I'll see you when I get "home".

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on November 17, 2017 9:08 AM

Message from Denise Cluiss

Well, it's just me again. Guess you know about Hurricane Harvey. Guess you know about a lot of things being where you are. Gosh, the Hurricane season has been really active this year. You know, Florida had Hurricane Irma and poor Puerto Rico just about got ripped off the face of the Earth by Hurricane Maria. Oh, man, you should see Rockport and Port Aransas. Just awful. I know you would have been out there helping out anyway you could. And two trees fell at your house. One fell ON your house, the front porch. Beth and Amy (I think Rob, too) came to see it. They were a bit nostalgic about it because those mesquites brought back memories (like climbing on them). I'm going to be taking Will and Rees VINYL RECORD shopping this weekend. Wow, the kids are digging the vinyl theses days. I don't think they really know some of the bands (like from the 60's and 70's) that they choose (or even the 80's!) but it's fun for them. Fun for me, too. I don't buy them. Just fun. And fun to be with the kids. I lit a candle with a dove on it for you because it's dove season!! Hope they have dove season where you are because I know you enjoyed it. Randy and Gage will be hunting in Three Rivers this weekend. Well, I gotta get back to work. Remember, I think about you a lot and I wish we were friends -- all those years went by. Your death was a tragedy but it sure has taught me a lot and I'm still going through a lot of forgiveness. But you already know that. Much love, me.

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on September 22, 2017 9:47 AM

Message from Denise Cluiss

Don't forget! It's Patrick's Birthday!!!

Message from Denise Cluiss

Well, it's been a while! But I had a fabulous dream about you last night! You see, you think that when you left then everyone would just forget and no one would be changed. Wrong! But that's neither here nor there and you can't come back. We just wait until we go "home" (because, really, Earth, is just a stopping place until we go home -- I don't understand it at all but I hope to someday). Anyway, you looked so good in the dream. And I got really upset but, as usual, you were saying, "Let it go!!!" But why'd you show up? How do you let something go that was so tragic and when I see you in dreams. And I love Megan, and Hayden, and Rees so much. Oh my gosh, those little ones, Jayce and Ryan -- woo! Adorable. Amy, Rob, Beth --- such sweet, gracious, loving people. Ok, I can write forever and forever but I've got work to do. Come visit me again some time!!!

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on August 10, 2017 8:23 AM

Message from Denise Cluiss

I was thinking about you today but I don't feel so good (had that nose surgery) so I just want you to know I still think about you. Someday we can talk again.

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on June 8, 2017 3:59 PM

Message from Denise Cluiss

I didn't forget your birthday May 16th. I just didn't get around to writing anything. 55 years old. So young, Jim. You're missed by many people. Your birth on this Earth was not for nothing as you might have thought at the end. You have wonderful children and grandchildren, siblings, relatives and friends who are very glad that on May 16th 1962 you came into this world. We will meet again on the other side!!

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on May 19, 2017 7:46 PM

Message from Denise Cluiss

Weather is getting warmer. More people beginning to go fishing. You'd probably be fishing and getting ready for Camp Ben. Don't think you are forgotten. These thoughts go through our minds. Please look over Laynie at Texas Children's Hospital - she's doing well but could always use an angel looking over her (yet I believe you've always been there). Keep a close watch on Megan, her boys and Rees.

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on April 30, 2017 6:35 PM

A candle was lit by Your chickenbone on March 15, 2017 2:45 AM

Message from Denise Cluiss

Remember ELO?
"Oh, I'm never gonna be the same again. I've seen the way it's got to end. Sweet dreams. Sweet Dreams." You loved my sister so much and it was a type of "Strange Music" for you - she was magic for you. It just because twisted. I divorced Randy, I wasn't in love anymore. But he silently left. I would just be absolutely horrified if he killed himself. God, I would just have to be institutionalized from guilt.

Message from Denise Cluiss

Rees won 1st place in two art categories at the Art Museum. AWESOME!!! No doubts, though. He is definitely a Flinn! He's the brains, the creativity, that tall swagger (place funny face emoji right here). No, seriously, he is so handsome. I envy you. Sometimes I say, "He wasn't in his right mind." Sometimes I say, "Oh, he was perfectly in control". Jesus and Gage. It's the only thing that keeps me here. Afraid Christ would send me to hell and afraid that Gage might do the same. Oh, by the way, that kid got a $300 speeding ticket. Geesh!! And he's needing me. I'll keep holding on. "Nothing has the chance to be good. Nothing ever could. I'll keep holding on."

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on March 6, 2017 11:30 AM

Message from Denise Cluiss

Just needed to let you know that we still think about you all the time and when it's time for me to go "home" (because, honestly, Earth is not our home) I hope that we will meet up and can be friends because we weren't on Earth, not really. But with you leaving here, I've tried to be more friendly to people and, even if they aren't friendly with me, well, that's ok. Another time, another place. On my calendar it reads "Be loving in everything you do" 1 Corinthians 16:14. So, I'm trying.

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on February 1, 2017 9:42 AM

Message from Denise Cluiss

Christmas was fine. I sure know that Megan, Rees and Hayden feel such a loss with you not around. It's their second Christmas without you. It just feels strange to be in the house when it is your family home and you're not there. But there ya go (I'm quoting you). Rees was 15 years old yesterday!!!!!!!! I know you know that but....wow!!!! We're having his party on the 8th at 2. And, of course, you know, Jack died. I hope he's up there with you. Gosh, he was such as good dog. It really hurt Casey and the kids to lose him. Also, did you help with the colors for Laynie's wrist band (Live, Love, Laynie). Well, we sure think you did!!!! All my love, Denise

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on January 4, 2017 3:32 PM

Message from Denise Cluiss

Thanksgiving passed and Christmas is coming. I want to crawl inside of Rees's brain and find out what his thoughts and feelings are. I even worry about Megan and her state of mind sometimes. Why do I write to you so often? Because I fantasized about doing the same thing to myself for many, many years -- since I was child. I don't believe I was supposed to be put here. I have no idea why I am here. Never have. I have yet to find a purpose or reason. I know you left for a different reason but I understand that feeling of "not being needed here anymore". Someday I hope to see you and I hope we are friends.

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on December 7, 2016 2:58 PM

Message from Denise Cluiss

There are some songs I can't listen to anymore because it reminds of how things felt apart for you and the whole family. I was listening to Electric Light Orchestra just now (Strange Magic -- Can't Get You Out of My Head). I didn't know you were still very, very in love with my sister. I didn't see you overcoming this. And I can feel your heart breaking when I hear to lyrics like "Oh, I'm never gonna be the same again. Now I've seen the way it's got to end. Sweet dream. Sweet dream.". Sweet Dreams to you.

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on November 4, 2016 9:49 AM

Message from Denise Cluiss

It's just me. Don't think that I just all of the sudden thought of you today. No way. Every day, I think of you. I had a dream about you last night. And I went on the Walk to Emmaus (Christian/Spiritual Retreat at Camp Zephyr) and, boy, did I do A LOT of praying for you and Casey, and Rees, and Megan and her boys and Hayden. Mainly - you. There was one night that I really felt that I was reaching you. Maybe I was just extremely tired and being in that candlelit church was very soothing. I will miss you very much at Thanksgiving and Christmas. Don't ever think that each holiday will be one where everybody says "Oh, yeah, I totally forgot Jim wasn't here." Nope. We'll always miss you.

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on October 26, 2016 9:22 AM

Message from denise cluiss

Hi Jim. Isn't it odd how much I think of you? Something just clicked in my heart and soul when you left. Everything has changed so much. Yes, life goes on, but what a different life it is. Well, I wish I could reach you somehow and make sure you are happy and at peace. I pray this for you every single day. Please be alright.

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on September 7, 2016 11:29 AM

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on August 16, 2016 8:01 AM

Message from Denise Cluiss

It's finally beginning to rain as it usually does right as school starts. Rees is a freshman which blows my mind. I know you are watching him and looking over him. There are times I think of you and wonder what you would be doing in your life here on Earth at this time and it's upsetting to me so I'll leave it right here. But know I think about you everyday. And it's painful.

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on July 21, 2016 11:14 AM

Message from Denise Cluiss

I will never get over seeing your face on this site -- an obituary of Jim Flinn -- that is the most unreal thing I believe I have ever seen. Well, a year has gone by. Rob, Gretcha, Amy and Mick came down. We went to the cemetery on your anniversary to let you know you are NOT and NEVER WILL BE forgotten. This has changed MANY lives in MANY DIFFERENT ways. Your grandsons, Ryan and Jayce were there -- OH MY GOSH -- so adorable. Very hard on Megan. Rees just seemed so --- he just didn't know what to do. He's 14. He doesn't know what to do. Hell, do any of us really know what to do???? Well, there ya go, right?? I gotta get back to work.

Message from Denise Cluiss

Will you please stay with Rees - just constantly look over him, ok? I worry about him and he hides things so well -- just like you could do!!! Please don't leave his side. Get Dorothy to be there, get John to be there, get your Uncle Bob to be there. I don't want a single moment of heavenly presence to leave him. I know, I know - you'd yell at me and say "That's already being done!!!" but I just worry about him a lot. Oh, man, Jim, he got so many awards the other day (end of school). He was highest scorer in Algebra on the STARR test! He's just the most amazing kid. Good job!!!

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on June 2, 2016 8:48 AM

Message from Denise Cluiss

It's your birthday today. You would have been 54. Now you are always 53. I wish we could have had a little celebration for you yesterday - some bbq, some beer, some music - or even just to send you a card letting you know "Happy Birthday - thinking of you". Megan is having a hard time with your birthday. She really hurts. Rees keeps things to himself so much - you know, you were like that! So, he's a Flinn for sure. It tears Hayden apart, you weren't a biological father, but you were his father. And your sisters and brothers sure would like to give you a call and hear your voice, I just know it. Many friends would love to say happy birthday. Happy Birthday and much love to you.

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on May 16, 2016 8:43 AM

Message from Denise Cluiss

This weekend I was in Rockport and the day was beautiful and there were so many people fishing and I thought, "This is the type of day Jim would hook that boat up and get out on the water." I don't know what heaven is like but I hope you are fishing and catching the biggest and best bass (or whatever you feel it the best) there is!

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on April 25, 2016 8:49 AM

Message from Denise Cluiss

Hello, Jim. I was thinking about you yesterday, and crying. And then this morning mom showed me a picture of you and Rees. And that's always upsetting. And THEN I heard a Neil Young song on the way to work called "Helpless" and THAT was upsetting. Well, we sure do miss you. I saw Rob and Amy this past week and we had a nice time. We ate a Freddie's and it was really good - yeh, they opened Freddie's again. They planted some flowers at your site and put some more ant poison down -- those ants are just taking over. And Amy is taking Rees to Washington D.C. for Spring Break. How awesome is that???? Well, I'll give you a prayer again today, as usual. All my love, Denise (that crazy sister in law of yours).

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on February 4, 2016 10:26 AM

A candle was lit by Paul L. Janda on January 30, 2016 11:26 AM

Message from Denise Cluiss

You were sorely missed at Christmas. Rees will have his 14th birthday party on January 3rd and you won't be there, physically, but, I know you will be there in spirit. Jim, Rees is so tall! He is going to be at least as tall as you! Love.......

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on December 30, 2015 9:47 AM

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on November 25, 2015 6:26 PM

Message from Denise Cluiss

We will miss you at Thanksgiving. Megan, John, and the boys (especially Meagan) having such a hard time. Hayden and Miranda are getting married. Rees is so tall and handsome. Your siblings will have an empty spot at the he table. Would love to have you here.

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on October 13, 2015 8:51 PM

Message from Noby Coronado

Jim was a very good friend and co-worker back when he was a Civil Inspector. I have known him and his family since our childhood days with Beth, Amy, and Rob at Sacred Heart School in Sinton. I remember his Mom would bring him by to school when he was a baby. I live in Sinton but just learned of his passing this Friday reading the football game program. He is truly one of the finest persons I have ever met in my life time. I will see you again my friend in the next life.

Message from Beth Flinn Hudson

Noby, thank you for your kind words. We do have such lovely memories of our friends and days at Sacred Heart. You are so kind to reach out to us. We all do truly miss him.

Message from Denise Cluiss

Hello. I am Jim's sister in law. Thank you for writing wonderful memories of Jim. We are still deeply mourning this loss. We are very thankful that so many people remember him as he was: a fine man of high morals who was loving and completely genuine. God bless you.

A candle was lit by Noby Coronado on September 9, 2015 10:28 AM

Message from Denise Cluiss

I still think about Jim every day - as I am now. Jim and his entire family are constantly in my prayers.

Message from Denise

Everyday I think about you and I cry for you and I love you. I go over and over and over in my mind how I could have helped you. You were a good man, Jim, and you have a wonderful family. You leave a beautiful legacy in the form of Megan, Hayden, Rees, Ryan, and Jace. You are not forgotten. I have learned from you. I am still learning from you. You are loved.

A candle was lit by Denise Cluiss on August 11, 2015 8:38 AM

A candle was lit by Ranee W Brown on August 1, 2015 2:12 PM